Nonverbal signs of lying. Signs of lying in men and women

When people lie to you, it is always unpleasant. The ability to detect lies by gestures and facial expressions will definitely come in handy. How to recognize the emotions of your interlocutor and use these tricks yourself.

When people lie to you, it is always unpleasant. How to tell by gestures and facial expressions whether your interlocutor is lying to you.

When speaking of deception, a person practically does not think about his behavior at this moment, but by a person’s gestures one can determine whether he is telling the truth or a lie. In order to recognize the emotions of your interlocutor or simply another person, it is important to be quite observant and no psychological tricks are needed here.

Learning to identify the signs of a lie is not at all difficult, and with their help you can not only catch a deceiver in a lie, but also use them yourself when, due to some circumstances, it is necessary to tell a lie, for the good, of course.

Sign No. 1. During a conversation, try to follow the gaze of your interlocutor. When a person tells a lie, he averts his eyes for a longer period than usual during a conversation, or, on the contrary, simply pierces right through with a persistent gaze. Such unnatural behavior of a person’s eyes will indicate that a lie has slipped somewhere.

Sign No. 2. A smile during deception is also different from a sincere smile with the whole face during a truthful conversation. As a rule, one corner of the deceiver’s mouth is raised, and the smile itself is lightning fast - it appears and immediately disappears, and only on the lips. The eyes do not take part in a deceptive smile.

Sign No. 3. Very often, during a lie, a person’s face becomes covered in blush or the complexion changes its color altogether. The liar's voice becomes a little louder, but these tones are very difficult to catch.

Sign No. 4. Neurotic touching of the mouth, nose, ear, forehead also indicates a lie, and if the mouth is half covered with the hand of your interlocutor, then most likely he is not yawning, but just lying.

Sign No. 5. Remember that during a sincere conversation a person is filled with emotions, feelings and personal attitudes towards the subject of the conversation. And liars try to hide their hands in their pockets or stand at attention, because what is imagined cannot be conveyed by gestures and body movements. By the way, this applies to the whole body. Liars feel very constrained in their upper body, because this is how they try to concentrate their ability to lie and strain their strength to persuade. While the liar's legs are relaxed or simply express nervousness by shaking or swaying.

Sign No. 6. You can expose deception with the help of clarifying questions; deceivers are unlikely to think through the details of their fantasies. In addition, untruths are forgotten very quickly and often even within a few minutes the liar forgets about his frivolous lies.

The experience of observing signs of deception will help you control your behavior when you have to lie about something, and even an experienced psychologist will not catch you in a lie.

According to statistics, every person manages to lie at least 4 times a day, since the truth often contradicts generally accepted standards of decency, ethics and even morality. How to recognize a lie if not a single modern detector is able to give one hundred percent guarantee that what a person says is not a deception? Let's determine the external signs of untruth that will give away the interlocutor.

What kind of untruth can happen?

Often, deception is harmless when a person tells a lie out of politeness or out of a desire to be liked (“You look great!”, “Very glad to meet you!”). Sometimes people have to withhold the whole truth or remain silent in response to uncomfortable questions out of reluctance to escalate the situation, and this is also considered insincerity.

However, psychologists say that even seemingly harmless lies can seriously harm relationships, especially when it comes to understatements between family members: husband and wife, parents and children. It is difficult to achieve mutual trust and maintain strong family ties in such circumstances, so it is important to know how to recognize the lies of a man, woman or child.

Observations by specialists in the field of psychology have shown certain results that relate to deception in the family:

1. despite their outward openness to their interlocutor, extroverts are more prone to lies than introverts;
2. children quickly learn to lie in authoritarian families, and they do it often and masterfully;
3. parents who behave gently towards their child notice lies immediately, since he rarely deceives and lies uncertainly;
4. the female sex is prone to deception when it comes to everyday things - they hide the price of purchased goods, do not tell about a broken cup or a burnt dish, etc.;
5. Men are characterized by understatement in matters of relationships, they hide their dissatisfaction with their partners, have mistresses and confidently lie about their fidelity.

How to learn to recognize a lie?

To prevent the development of complex family relationships built on deception, infidelity and understatement, it is important to learn to understand sincerity. Often the ability to expose a deceiver is a natural talent of a person who intuitively knows how to recognize a lie by facial expressions, gestures or intonation of the interlocutor. In this he is helped by life experience of communicating with liars, or natural observation.

This does not mean that anyone cannot spot deception without the appropriate experience or talent. Currently, psychology has established some verbal and nonverbal signs of information distortion that are typical for most people. Thanks to a well-developed methodology based on understanding such signals, each person will be able to develop the ability to recognize insincerity. Let's find out what can reveal a liar.

Careful observation of the interlocutor's gestures and facial expressions allows you to notice some signs of insincere behavior and track those situations and moments when a deliberate lie was uttered. Knowing some patterns of human behavior at the time of deception will help you doubt the honest intentions of your interlocutor.

You may consider yourself to be an exceptionally honest and straightforward person, or you may consider yourself resourceful and cunning: the risk of being deceived always exists. Deception, in its various manifestations, often accompanies human relationships. This was the case in ancient times, this is the case today and, as you might guess, it is unlikely that anything will change in the near future.

Sometimes they deceive us unconsciously and in small ways, sometimes they cheat on a large scale and purposefully. Often we ourselves are capable of cheating “in the name of a good cause,” such is the nature of the human psyche. But our body is designed in such a way that it will inevitably try to reflect our inner desires and thoughts, whether we like it or not.

By the peculiarities of facial expressions and some unconscious gestures of the interlocutor, you can guess that the matter is dirty and resist deception. Scientists, doctors, psychologists, people for whom fraud has become a craft, and people who want to avoid deception are studying the relationship between the reactions inherent in the human body to conscious deceptive actions.

Here six signs of deception or insincere behavior that casts doubt on the honest intentions of the interlocutor:

Sign one: Sudden glance to the side

If a person looks into your eyes and around alternately, like most of us, there is nothing unusual in this. However, if he looks away for too long, remember what he says at that time. Most likely, at these moments he is telling you false information. If a person diligently avoids looking you in the eye, he is again deceiving you or the motive of his conversation with you is not at all what he reported. For example, a man who already has a girlfriend, but who has kept silent about it, can behave this way when he comes on a date with a girl.

Sign two: Blush

Spontaneous blushing, not associated with physical activity and exposure to frosty air, is considered by neurophysiologists to be a reaction of the nervous system. And this reaction is very difficult to control. The blush does not have to be all over the cheek. The slightest changes in complexion (belonging to a certain race and nationality may be important here) will certainly be noted by connoisseurs and experts of deception. In particular, these include scammers and professional players, i.e. people for whom it is extremely important not to be fooled themselves.

Sign three: Insincere smile

The lower part of the orbicularis oculi muscle is called the “affability muscle.” When a smile is sincere, this muscle tenses expressively, and the whole face smiles: the mouth, forehead, cheeks, nostrils expand. It is impossible to deceive the friendliness muscle; with an insincere grimace, it is still not tense enough, and sometimes it is completely relaxed. The person smiles only with his mouth, one corner of his mouth is raised, the smile disappears as suddenly as it appears.

Sign four: Neurotic touching

A person who deceives or does not say something experiences tension and discomfort. Unconsciously, he tries to reduce this tension by lightly and frequently touching his nose, forehead, cheeks, and neck. It is even easier to notice a lie if a person covers his mouth and the lower part of his nose during a conversation.

Sign five: Control of the upper half of the body

Scientists have found that the further a part of our body is from the brain, the more difficult it is to control. Cheaters often behave differently in their upper and lower body halves. Deception requires high tension and concentration. With volitional control of the upper body, the lower part may be too relaxed or show itself as excessive nervousness, for example, in the form of trembling legs.

Sign six: Hands in a vice

At the moment of deception, the deceiver's hands may look stiff and clumsy. Instinctive efforts to hide this sign will most likely lead to an attempt to cross your fingers, hide your hands under the table and in your pockets, or occupy them with some obsessive movement.

These signs of deception are simple and easy to follow in practice. This knowledge will arm an attentive and observant person and help protect himself from deceivers. But a person who has learned to manage himself will learn to manage the situation, he will be able to hide his sincere intentions and goals from outsiders, and this skill already refers to the art of aerobatics.

Psychology of lies and deception [How to expose a liar] Spiritsa Evgeniy

Chapter 5. Basic signs and strategies of deception

The previous chapter described the main forms of lying - omission and distortion, in this chapter we will talk about what gives away a liar, and what behavioral strategies liars choose in the hope of deceiving the verifier.

P. Ekman suggests dividing signs of deception into leaks and information about the presence of deception. This classification seems successful to us, and therefore we also adhere to it.

What is a leak? This is a marker that a liar inadvertently uses to reveal himself. Leaks can be linguistic (the liar accidentally let it slip), eye leaks (the liar accidentally revealed himself to have other synesthesia), facial leaks (the appearance of a micro-expression), body leaks (emblematic slips). Leaks that appear in response to a test stimulus are sure signs of deception. We talk about lying because we are dealing with the so-called double message, that is, when during the conversation the body contradicts the words.

Information about the presence of deception indicates deliberately hidden information, but does not answer the question of what exactly the person being interviewed is hiding. Often there is enough information about the presence of deception, since the truth can be established in another way, for example, by conducting detective or investigative activities.

In some contexts, the truth turns out to be insignificant. Thus, an employer can easily refuse to hire a candidate if, on the topic under study, he has demonstrated signs indicating the presence of deliberately hidden information. In this case, rarely will anyone find out the reasons for its concealment, this is especially true when passing an interview for top positions.

During the interview, the verifier somehow records all the ways information about the presence of deception is manifested. There is no need to double-check them, since thanks to adaptation they, as a rule, are not repeated in their original form. It is necessary to check information about the presence of deception by again presenting control, testing and provocative stimuli in a strict sequence. As you understand, provocative questions are aimed at identifying and fixing leaks.

Information about the presence of deception may appear in markers associated with the eyes (gaze checking, rapid blinking), changes in breathing (rapid breathing, hyperventilation of the lungs, deep exhalations and inhalations), changes in vocal modulations (raising, lowering the tone of the voice, attempting to clear the throat when answer to a test question), a decrease in salivary secretion in the mouth (frequent swallowing, licking lips), pallor of the skin, changes in gestures during the combat part of the study, etc.

If during a leak it is enough to track it, sometimes even just to record it in memory, then with information about the presence of deception, there must be a sufficient number of aggregate signs that allow the verifier to unambiguously draw a conclusion about the involvement or non-involvement of the person being interviewed and they must appear in different information systems. The first thing we pay attention to is the change in breathing. Voice and psycholinguistic changes when answering test questions are also important. Throughout the conversation, it is necessary to monitor all signs of lies that appear in the reactions of the autonomic nervous system. Unlike American schools of non-instrumental lie detection, we consider facial signals and the entire complex of gestures as additional signs, and not the main ones. Naturally, we place the main emphasis on the psycholinguistic features of the speech of the person being interviewed, since this is the most informative channel. The more information about the presence of deception we see in different systems of the body, the higher the likelihood of lying.

All these signs appear against the background of stress and fit very neatly into the concept of stress described by Hans Selye.

Stress (from the English stress - “pressure”, “pressure”, “pressure”; “oppression”; “load”; “tension”) is a nonspecific (general) reaction of the body to an impact (physical or psychological) that disrupts its homeostasis ( integrity), as well as the corresponding state of the nervous system of the body (or the body as a whole). In physiology and psychology, positive (eustress) and negative (distress) forms of stress are distinguished.

Whatever the stress, “bad” or “good”, physical, physiological or emotional, its effect on the body has common characteristic and non-specific features.

The term “stress” was first introduced into physiology and psychology by Walter Cannon in his research on the universal human reaction to threat.

A student of W. Cannon, physiologist G. Selye, published his first work in 1936, in which he described stress as a general adaptation syndrome, but for a long time avoided using the term “stress”, since it was used in many ways to designate “neuropsychic” tension (“fight or flight” syndrome). Only in 1946 did G. Selye begin to systematically use the term “stress” for general adaptive stress, and in this form it entered modern psychology and psychophysiology.

“Stress is a nonspecific response of the body to any demand presented to it (talking about lie detection - stimuli). In other words, in addition to the specific effect, all agents affecting us also cause a nonspecific need to carry out adaptive functions and thereby restore the normal state. These functions are independent of specific effects. Nonspecific demands imposed by the impact as such are the essence of stress,” wrote G. Selye.

Back in the 1920s, while studying at the University of Prague, G. Selye drew attention to the fact that the onset of any infection is the same (fever, weakness, loss of appetite). In this fact, he discerned a special property - the universality of the body's response to any damage.

Under stress, along with elements of adaptation to strong stimuli, there are elements of tension and even damage. It was the universality of the “triad of changes” that accompanies stress - a decrease in the thymus, an enlargement of the adrenal cortex and the appearance of hemorrhages and even ulcers in the mucous membrane of the gastrointestinal tract - that allowed G. Selye to hypothesize about a general adaptation syndrome, which was later called “stress”. The work was published in 1936 in the journal Nature. G. Selye identified three stages of the general adaptation syndrome:

Anxiety reaction (mobilization of adaptive capabilities that are limited) - at this stage we carry out the research part;

Resistance stage - this is where we carry out the combat part;

The stage of exhaustion is the stage of gaining recognition.

For each stage, characteristic changes occurring in the autonomic nervous system and, as a consequence, affecting the production of speech are described. The person involved always perceives the test situation as stress for himself, which means that the body begins to react in a universal, non-specific way, which the person cannot independently control. Therefore, depending on the strength of the nervous system, a person will use basic behavioral strategies of resistance.

If G. Selye and W. Cannon spoke about the basic behavioral strategies of “fight or flight,” then in nature there is another reaction to a dangerous stimulus, which is expressed in the “stop” mechanism.

In a lie detection situation, these basic survival strategies will manifest themselves in the behavior of the liar. What defense strategies the person involved will use in a test situation depends on the strength and mobility of his nervous system, and on his characterological characteristics. In the research part of the interview conversation, the main task of the verifier is to understand the type of nervous system of the interlocutor and suggest the way of his behavior.

To protect himself in a testing situation, the person being interviewed chooses strategies that he has successfully used previously in difficult situations.

The “survival” of a person involved in a survey conversation is usually due to the fact that he tries to put up barriers so that the verifier cannot catch him in a lie. Each type of such barriers is based on a basic behavioral strategy of lying and manifests itself in certain models of it.

Let's look at the basic strategies and patterns of lying and their relationship to the stress and barriers used by those involved.

1. Control barrier consists in the desire not to report any, even minor, information in any way related to the event being verified; manifests itself in monitoring one’s own speech and nonverbal behavior during the interview and attempts to neutralize or correct what was previously said. The interviewee is forced to control everything that directly or indirectly relates to the concealed information and the event under investigation.

In a situation where information about the investigation came as a surprise to the liar and he did not have time to prepare, the person involved tries not to give himself away, which forces him to control himself both in speech and in movements, and this looks incongruent. A person who controls all systems of the body becomes “woody,” as it were. This behavioral strategy is called neutralization.

Sometimes the person being interviewed has not had time to adapt to the situation so much that he considers the only successful strategy for himself to be refusal of any cooperation with the verifier. The subject claims that he is not involved, and says nothing more, does not enter into dialogue. We call this model negation. Denial and neutralization are basic behavioral strategies for unprepared lies.

If there is a threat of breaking through a semantic or control barrier, the subject goes to complete neutralization or complete denial of his participation in the event and stops answering the verifier’s questions. This is a form of psychological defense, during which a mechanism arises called the “denial mindset.”

2. Semantic/strategic barrier consists in selective immunity to certain stimuli presented by the verifier. Strategies based on a semantic barrier are used by people with a strong, stable nervous system.

The participant does not shy away from answering questions, answers as if the questions are absolutely clear and understandable to him, but all his answers partially or completely do not correspond to the content of the question. The interlocutors seem to be in a dialogue, but they always misunderstand each other; it turns out that the answering machine is talking to the autopilot. It is important to consider that this only applies to circumstances hidden by the subject. As a result, no topic is excluded from the subject of discussion, but the person is sensitive to recognizing what may be related to an undesirable topic and what is not. All attempts to ask verification questions “head-on” are initially unsuccessful; moreover, such tactics of the verifier reinforce and increase the impenetrability of the semantic barrier.

It is precisely these people who are the most difficult types of subjects to expose. They, as a rule, have increased self-control, quickly adapt to the interview situation, do not give confessions, preferring to fight to the end.

The most famous and most difficult strategy for recognizing lies is legend, since it involves creating a different reality, which avoids leaks or the appearance of information about the presence of deception, since it is based on facts.

Another controlled lie strategy is called “approximation” (from the Latin “approximation”). By approximation in lie detection we mean such human behavior in which, based on a changing context, the participant gradually gives out in speech the information necessary for the verifier to make a decision about the non-involvement of this subject. In other words, the participant creates a legend during the interview conversation, observing the behavior and actions of the verifier.

3. Tactical barrier consists in using pre-prepared expressions, tirades, “secular and everyday wisdom” that do not allow the verifier to approach the hidden information; is manifested in the fact that the person being interviewed does not shy away from communication, and even, on the contrary, is ready to communicate with the verifier, but regarding any reprehensible actions he has a number of prepared formulas aimed at chattering and mitigating or increasing the verifier’s feelings of guilt for conducting the research: “There is no person who would not lie,” “Everyone strives to live better,” “Now everyone survives as best they can,” etc.

Creative and fantasy strategies of lying are characteristic of people with a mobile, fast nervous system. Their main strategy is to talk. During the conversation, they give out a large amount of unnecessary information that is not related to the event under investigation, they talk a lot, quickly, and actively gesture with one goal - to keep the verifier away from the verification topic, but when unexpectedly asked verification questions, they show very clear signs of involvement.

And finally, another model of lies, which P. Ekman calls the “delight of deception”, we have received the name “Ostap strategy”, after the name of the virtuoso who brilliantly uses it - Ostap Bender.

A lie can sometimes not only be based on the threat of punishment or remorse, but also be a challenge and be considered an achievement in the mind of the person being interviewed. This strategy is common for people of the psychopathic and psychopathological types. These individuals, as a rule, do not experience shame or remorse. The strategy of rapture of deception can be of different intensity. For its successful implementation, viewers are needed who at this moment demonstrate interest in what the deceiver is doing: the more the liar sees that his deception is successful, the more skillfully and accurately he continues to lie. The intensity of the expression of emotion increases. The delight of deception is accompanied by a feeling of contempt for the victim of deception and can manifest itself more strongly if the interlocutor has a reputation as a person who is difficult to deceive. In this case, the liar may make a mistake, since with the delight of deception it is very difficult to hide his pleasure in this situation. An experienced verifier always takes advantage of this chance.

The most adaptive individuals involved may demonstrate a range of lying strategies, both sequentially and in parallel. We call this behavior strategy complex.

As a rule, a liar does not want to be exposed and tries to choose a certain strategy and tactics of behavior during a survey conversation. Typically, this strategy is chosen involuntarily by a liar, based on the type of his nervous system. Despite the fact that a liar may have time to prepare for the verification procedure, sometimes he has to lie spontaneously.

Practical task for the first part of the book

Remember yourself when you told a lie and determine what type of lie it was.

Remember the cases from your life: when your deception was revealed, what gave you away - a leak or information about the existence of a deception?

Think about yourself when you tell a lie: what lying strategy do you use most?

Look at your surroundings, choose two or three colleagues (friends), carefully evaluate them and answer the same questions, but this time in relation not to yourself, but to them.

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Good afternoon, dear readers! Today I won't tell you anything useful. And that's a lie. We encounter lies at work, at home, at school, with friends. It is unpleasant and disgusting to be deceived. I bring to your attention detailed instructions on how to recognize a lie: 10 mistakes of a liar.

A fairy tale is a lie, but there is a hint in it

How many times in your life have you encountered a person who seemed strange to you, you felt that he was not telling something, that he was disingenuous. Have you noticed that you subconsciously don’t trust his facial expressions, gestures, and speech?

But how to detect deception and not fall for a liar?

If you want to become an expert in this field, then be sure to read Paul Ekman "Psychology of Lies" and Pamela Meyer "How to recognize a lie".

Now we will look at the most common signs by which you can expose a liar to clean water. Remember that a lot depends on the context; a certain gesture will not always mean a lie. Be careful and vigilant.

Mistake #1 “Left Side”

Body language often speaks much louder than a person's speech. Right-handed people tend to have good control over the right side of their body. Track the direction of your right arm and leg. You can easily subjugate an unbridled hand.

Therefore, lie detection experts advise looking closely at the left side of a person. His left hand will dangle randomly, actively gesticulate, touch his face, and so on.

The left side of our body shows our real emotions, experiences and feelings. With quality observation, you can clearly see the signs of lying.

Mistake #2 “Hands to face”

Pay close attention to the gestures of your interlocutor. Signs of lying are covering your mouth, rubbing your nose, holding or scratching your neck, covering your ear, talking through your teeth. All this, if repeated many times, will practically scream that the person is deceiving.

It is important here not to confuse such a gesture with simply scratching a bite, for example. Or this behavior may be characteristic of your interlocutor.

I have a friend who constantly scratches his nose. It doesn't matter whether he's telling the truth or lying. Women resort to touching their neck or hair to show their interest in a man. So be extremely careful with such signals.

Mistake #3 “Speech”

If you want to make sure that a person is lying, then carefully watch his speech. In a conversation with a liar, you will notice a lot of understatement, a crumpled pace of speech, sometimes he speaks quickly, sometimes slowly. Most often, a liar's speech begins slowly, but then, out of fear of being discovered, he speeds up and may even end his story abruptly.

Liars often use a lot of pauses in their story. This gives them time to think and evaluate your reaction. You will also notice fluctuations in your speech. To make things easier for themselves, liars repeat your own words. For example, when you ask a question, he will quickly repeat the last words. "Where were you last week?" - “Last week I was...”

Mistake #4 “Eyes”

It’s not for nothing that they say that the eyes are the mirror of the soul. In the case of meeting a liar, the eyes will be one of the main factors by which you can bring him to clean water. Deceivers try not to look directly at their interlocutor; they always look away.

You can even ask them to tell you the story while looking you in the eye. The liar will be confused, embarrassed and still try to look away.

Mistake #5 “Emotions”

Facial expressions, as a component of body language, say a lot about what a person would like to keep silent about. The most common example is when a person tells you that he is glad to see you, but smiles only a moment later.

True emotions are expressed in parallel with speech. But the fictitious emotion is displayed on the face with a delay.

Mistake #6: “Being short”

When a liar comes up with his speech, he tries to make it as short and laconic as possible. You rarely hear a detailed and detailed story from the lips of a professional liar.

Brevity allows you to quickly post your version and evaluate your opponent’s reaction. Did he believe it? But then the seventh mistake happens.

Mistake #7 “Unnecessary parts”

When a person briefly outlines the essence of his false story to you, but begins to doubt your gullibility, he immediately embellishes the story with detailed, unnecessary, and sometimes pretentious details. In this way, he tries to make his story more believable.

Notice at what points the person begins to add details and details. Are they needed in the story, are they necessary and important in your conversation.

Mistake #8 “Protection”

Another liar's move is to defend himself against your doubts. As soon as you express your distrust, you will immediately hear “Do you think I look like a liar? Am I lying to you? You do not believe me?" and so on.

Liars may resort to sarcasm and jokes to cover up their lies. Do not confuse this with the normal behavior of a person.

There are those comrades who are always trying to impress their interlocutor with their sense of humor.
Additionally, sarcasm and rudeness between husband and wife may indicate that they have serious respect issues.

Mistake #9 “Attention”

The deceiver will watch your reaction very carefully. He will attribute the slightest change in your facial expressions to distrust or his complete victory. As soon as you frown slightly, he immediately changes tactics, because he considers this a sign of distrust.

A person who tells the truth will be more interested in his story than in your reaction to it. And the liar will try to understand whether you swallowed his bait or not.

Mistake #10: Confusion

If you ask your interlocutor to tell a story backwards, the person who is telling the truth will easily do this trick. But a liar will begin to get confused, remember what he told you, and in the end may not give any answer at all.

In addition, in the liar’s speeches there may be inconsistencies in dates, times, and places. If you follow the story carefully, you can find a couple of similar moments,

Summarize

Don't jump to conclusions. If you notice one or two of the signs described above, this does not always mean that the person is lying to you. A more correct approach would be to learn to see the aggregate of these signs.

When you know for sure that a person is lying to you, do not say so right away. Practice your observation skills. Study his facial expressions and gestures. Ask questions that don't have an expected answer.

A friend of mine came up with a spectacular maneuver. During his speech, he deliberately sneezed loudly when he wanted to convince his interlocutor that he was right. And with the words “I sneezed, it means I’m telling the truth,” he smiled solemnly.

Best wishes to you!