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This article gives a brief overview of the Seduction Model. There is no evidence in this article why the model is this way. Why is everything like this? Because this is how the world works, this is how women work.

There are different models of seduction. Some are less effective, others are more effective.
Including “And girl, you are so beautiful, I admire your beauty, can I meet you?”, we classify her as less effective.
This model is based on the foreign model of Mystery seduction, we consider it the most effective and universal, so we adapted it to Russia.

Knowing the seduction model is useful not only for beginners, but also for people who have had many girls, because it helps to generalize all the accumulated experience and really works.

Seduction is a linear process. This is a consistent set of emotions that the girl and you experience until the moment of sex. And these emotions are defined. Therefore, all seduction can be divided into 6 stages.

Opening
Attraction
Qualification
Comfort
Excitation
Sex
Ideally this is true. But if some mistake was made before the sex stage, then another stage will be added - Resistance before sex.

In the discovery stage, you start a conversation with an unfamiliar girl, the goal of this stage is for the girl to start talking to you. In attraction you get the girl interested. In Qualification, you evaluate a girl, she shows you her qualities, not based on appearance, she tries to please you, to interest you.

In comfort, you open up to each other, an emotional connection is formed between you, trust is created between you - rapport. In the arousal stage, you physically excite the girl. Resistance before sex is when you arouse a girl, but she refuses to have sex. Sex is not considered in our seduction model.

Each of these stages is important and follows one after the other. Only attraction and qualification alternate with each other, forming a ladder of qualification and attraction.

This model describes the "complete game".
Remember chess, there is such a thing as a children's checkmate. When you “accidentally” defeat your opponent very quickly. And there is a full game that lasts longer. That is, childish swearing is the beginning of seduction from the stage of excitement. This also works, especially in clubs.
After such a “full game” you have every chance to start a full-fledged long-term relationship with a girl.

We do not consider seduction in terms of the number of dates.
We consider ideal seduction to be one in which there was no resistance. This is the right pickup truck.

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Philip Bogachev

Russian Model of Effective Seduction

A self-instruction manual for preparing successful men.

Dedicated to my mother and Galina Yakovenko.

To two women who changed my worldview.

Preface

This book was supposed to be published in early 2003. On the other hand, at this very time we developed the second version of the Russian Model of Effective Seduction (RMES), and the release of the book was quickly postponed to the end of the year. During this time, all the material that was written earlier was revised. In fact, I wrote the book again. I really hope that new ideas and new methods will be published in new editions of the book, because we are constantly developing and looking for something new.

I remember the first RMES seminar, which took place on May 25, 2002. During this time, more than 800 young, energetic people passed through it. It was these people who gave me the opportunity to learn, who provided answers to my ideas, who tested my assumptions, and who, by learning from me, gave me the opportunity to learn with them. I am very grateful to all my students for this. Whoever you are, when and at whatever seminar you studied with me, know this. It is to you that I write this gratitude, it was from you that I learned.

And now this book represents almost in full exactly what RMES is now. “Almost” – because not all of the exercises we do at the seminars can be described in the text. A lot of things need to be shown or demonstrated. Because on paper it looks simple, but in training it can take seven sweats. And only then will it be simple.

I would like to say a special thank you to my partner in all coaching projects, Mikhail Shirin, thanks to whom the current seminar is exactly what it is.

I would like to thank my teachers with whom I had the honor to study:

Galina Yakovenko, Mikhail Ginzburg, Betty Erickson, Frank Farrelly, Frank Pucelik, Sergei Gorin, Andrei Koenig, Tatyana Muzhitskaya, Alexei Kucherov, Robert Dilts, Jean Gaudin.

Special thanks to those people who helped me shape my thinking:

Robert Heinlein (r.i.p.), Ray Douglas Bradbury, Anton Sandor LaVey (r.i.p.), Friedrich Nietzsche (r.i.p.), Milton Erickson (r.i.p.), Steve and Konera Adreas, Oliver Stone, Stanley Kubrick (r.i.p.), Jim Bradenburg.

Thanks to these teams for the sounds that helped me work on this book for seven years:

Lake Of Tears, My Dying Bride, Karunesh, Moonspell, Hallucinogen, Juno Reactor, Queen, Pink Floyd, Sergey Kalugin, Zero, Jethro Tull, Slayer, Pan.Thy.Monium, Summoning, Iron Maiden, Metallica, Dead Can Dance, Space , Chemical Brothers, Roy Orbison, Elvis Presley, Dagda, Blasphemy, Marduk, Empyrium, Brighter Death Now, Absu, 3 rd Force, Angizia, Dismal Euphony, Scorpions, Antichrisis, Inkubus Sukkubus, Sirrah, Master's Hammer, Tiamat, Cemetery Of Scream , Catharsis.

Many thanks to those guys with whom I took a coaching course in the summer of 2003:

Akhmetova Saule, Bulygin Egor, Gorina Maria, Dashevsky Oleg, Del German, Diment Leonid, Esipenko Andrey, Zhitlovsky Joseph, Sakova Vera, Kazarnovskaya Alena, Kapterev Alexey, Kiselev Roman, Kryuchkov Andrey, Kulagin Dmitry, Kucherenko Andrey, Litsina Yulia, Metelsky Andrey , Mikheev Alexander, Mikheeva Natalya, Pavelko Irina Panchenko Victor, Protas Alla, Pukhov Konstantin, Sikorskaya Anna, Simakova Anastasia, Stanis Vladimir, Ubliev Sergey, Kharitonova Yulia.

An introduction that explains what you're holding in your hands.

Well, all I can do is congratulate you, reader. You know, I myself sometimes regret that I didn’t learn what I know now somewhere around my eighteenth birthday. This would help me greatly reduce the number of collisions of my long-suffering forehead with those cosmic rakes that lie in wait for an ordinary young man with the first five or six girls.

After all, how does it work? Until the age of seven we are sure that children are found in cabbage, until the age of 12 we know that they are from mom and dad, after this period we suspect that people are having sex, at the age of thirteen we will watch the first pornography in our lives, and by the age of twenty (who is earlier, someone later) we will be lucky to experience the taste of sex ourselves. And the main problem in such a long period of time from the first viewing of pornography to the first performance of it live is the lack of training. For example, if we are taught in detail how to eat, drink, walk, talk, read and write, then we are not taught how to communicate with women at all.

There are sources of information, but what are they? A movie where, at best, they will show a couple of banter dialogues, at worst, the hero passionately kisses the heroine and they fall on the bed, and in the next frame they already have five children. Friends of the same age who know no more than you do, or older comrades who, by and large, know only one way to seduce a woman: “pour a liter of vodka into her and that’s it.”

Well, about the fact that no one will ask adults until they are twenty, and after twenty you are already an adult and there is no one to ask, I am generally silent. Glossy magazines often write such nonsense that they can’t even wipe their butts in the toilet. The paper is tough.

And what to do in such a situation? I am not the first person to think about such injustice. Apart from the mythical Casanova and the legendary Don Juan, dozens of very smart and advanced people have written on this topic. Seneca, for example. But where can modern man look for that Seneca? Right. Nowadays it is fashionable to communicate electronically, that is, using a computer. And there are many advisers, and they advise quickly, and with home delivery. This is exactly how the pick-up artist scene in Russia was created in the mid-nineties. (To pick UP in bourgeois slang means quickly picking up a girl for the night) In this circle of people, some theories were born; for the first time, the idea was thrown up to use NLP and Hypnosis in dating girls. And after a couple of years, this get-together began to slowly die out, mainly due to the specificity of the method of communication (who knows what FidoNet is, will understand, Yandex asks the rest to visit).

At the end of 1998, I created the first prototype of the www.lover website. , and already in 1999 he was known throughout Russia. Interesting people began to gather at the project forum, we began to actively meet, and at the beginning of 2000 the idea was born to summarize everything that we know about meeting girls, and even about seducing them. It turned out that there are at least a couple of dozen methods and approaches, but none of them reflects a comprehensive model from start to finish. From dating to seduction, from seduction to creating relationships, from creating relationships to separation.

And then the fun began. It turned out that each of those people who were at the very origins of the creation of RMES (Russian Model of Effective Seduction) has an almost unique set of techniques and personal qualities that work almost exclusively for this person. And we began to compare our ideas, learn new skills from each other, vigorously discuss ideas and try to apply the experience of our foreign colleagues in our own conditions.

Philip Bogachev Russian Model of Effective Seduction
Introduction
Preface
An introduction that explains what you're holding in your hands.
What is the Russian Model of Effective Seduction
How to read this book
Part 1. Fundamentals, or basic concepts of RMES
Chapter 1. Communication structure
Part 1 – Communication
Part 2 – Effectiveness of the communication structure
Chapter 2: Beliefs and Rules of an Effective Seducer
There are many women, I am alone
Flexibility determines success
There will always be a second chance
No one owes nothing to nobody
It's possible
And a little more about the consequences
Chapter 3. What is NLP?
A little history
NLP Goals
Myths about (pro) NLP
Charlatans
Environmental friendliness
Education
conclusions
Chapter 4: Basic Assumptions of NLP
Your perception of the world is not the world
All behavior has a positive intention
A person does the best he can in this situation.
The result of our communication is feedback
No errors, there is feedback
Consciousness and body are one system
Conclusion
Chapter 5. Goal Frame
1. Conditions for a well-formulated result
2. Context for achieving the goal
3. Representation of goal achievement
4. Ecology of goal achievement
5. First step
Conclusion
Part 1.99 – The Structure of Seduction
Part 2. Search
Chapter 6. Where you can and should meet girls
Cultural places
Bars and cafes
Meetings at museums and exhibitions
Dating in transport
Dating at a disco (club)
Dating in shopping malls
Provinces
Abroad
Chapter 7. Various subtleties
About the staff
Cases of artificial deficiency
Chapter 8. Searching for girls on the Russian Internet
1) The most popular, visited and crowded place is Chats
2) Dating through user directories of something
3) Dating sites
4) Just for fun, search for a name via adduser in ICQ
5) Climb through the home pages - but it’s quite difficult to find the creature you need
6) Diaries
Chapter 9. Letter to a stranger for a dating site
Research, part 1 – preparation
Research, part 2 – analytics
Ashipki
Fingers
In a swoop!
Humor!
Mysteriousness
Sure. Seems
Garbage
Pounce, shock!
I'm crazy, dear editor...
Conclusion
Part 3. Getting to know each other
Chapter 10. First approach
Game strategy
Scientific strategy
Chapter 11. Fears, or are there tigers here?
Typical fears in seduction
Types of fears
Step-by-step methods for working through fears during dating
Chapter 12. Templates
Training structure
Using Templates
Designing templates for dating
Chapter 13. Money, money, rubbish money...
Dynamo
Reasons why they dynamite
Methods of dealing with dynamic women
conclusions
Chapter 14. How important and necessary it is to touch a girl
Spider Tactics
Hard kinesthetics or soft petting?
Conclusion
Chapter 15. Methods of communicating with boring people
Be genuinely interested in your interlocutor
Create your own energy sphere
Feel like a child
Don't think about the white monkey
conclusions
Conclusion
Part 4. Attracting
Chapter 16. Signs of interest and sympathy in a girl
Hair
Eyes
Complex signs
Chapter 17. The importance of a partner
Decreasing the importance of women
Increasing your importance for a woman
Chapter 18. Increasing your attractiveness
The Domino Principle
Let's start with the simplest rule: Fishing with live bait
Rule two: Decoy
Rule three: Explicit image
Rule Four: Sci-Fi
A case from one's life
Chapter 19. Games based on the Closer - Farther technique
Method number one: Closer - Further
Method number two: Pendulum
Method number three: Needle
Method number four: Database communication, “plus-minus” technique
Method number five: Opinion cubed
Method number six: Tearing off the masks
Method number seven: Training
Chapter 20. Delusion Generator™
Exercise: Linguistic Pyramids
Exercise: How is a raven like a table?
Exercise: Advanced Tying
Exercise: What I see is what I sing about
Exercise: Stream of Consciousness
Exercise: Continue the topic
Exercise: Orange Mood
Exercise: Problem Solving
Exercise: Alternate Realities (Basic)
Exercise: Constructing Alternate Realities
Exercise: Alternate Realities (Advanced)
Chapter 21. Demolition of the roof
Chapter 22. Anchors
Types of anchors
Rules for setting an anchor
Rule one: Uniqueness of the anchor
Rule two: Anchor repeatability
Rule three: Anchors are placed ahead of time
Rule four: Rubbing anchors
Creating Complex Anchors
Collapse of anchors
Implicit anchors
Analog Marking
Afterword
Chapter 23. Creating a new model of communication with women
Behavior Generator
Spherical models in vacuum
Model "Botanist"
Model "Brother"
Model "Macho"
Model "Romantic"
Model "Alien"
Model "Star"
Model "Millionaire"
Model "Don't care"
Now let's try to take off with all this garbage
Chapter 24. Ambiguities
Story one
Story two – “Soul and Doves”
The third story, very Soviet
conclusions
Chapter 25. Report
A little about rapport in the context of seduction
Method number one – adjustment to the pose
Method two - adjusting to gestures
Method three - adjusting to facial expressions
Method number four - adjusting to breathing
Method number five - adjusting to speech
Method number six – adjustment to modality
Method number seven - adjustment to the logical level
Method number eight – Golden Ball
Joining and maintaining
Problems
Conclusion of the part
Part 5. Male sexual attractiveness (theory 100 points)
Chapter 26. The concept of sexual attractiveness of a man
Chapter 27. Appearance
Natural data
Cloth
Trifle
Haberdashery, meaning leather
Mobile phone
Gentleman's set
Where, what, how much
conclusions
Chapter 28. Internal states
Useful Hallucinations
Energy cocoon
Mirror
Rhinoceros
The president
Bird's eye height
Pictures from memory
NLP Technique Clip
Gait D.O.R.E.
Look D.O.R.E.
conclusions
Chapter 29. Social pyramids
Public power
Financial Pyramide
Superpowers
Physical strength
Fame
Personal qualities
Checks
conclusions
Chapter 30. The way you talk
Speak slowly
Talk little
Speak quietly
Speak from the solar plexus
Speak rhythmically
Voice of D.O.R.E.
Summary
Chapter 31. What are you saying?
So they write in Cosmopolitan magazine
Paraphrase
Pattern “Absolutely – maybe”
conclusions
Conclusion
Part 6. Get closer
Chapter 32. The concept of trance, or the necessary theory for working within trances
The history of hypnosis, or galloping across Europe
Trance concept
Trance structure
Signs of a trance state
Microdynamics of trance
conclusions
Chapter 33. Tools for working with trance states
Generalized language
Other speech techniques
Simple language
Multimodal Descriptions
Synesthesia
Providing choice
…And something else
Dissociations
Negations
Speak into another person's breath
Chapter 34. Inducing a trance
1. Inducing trance through information overload
2. Inducing a trance through the memory of other trances
3. Inducing trance through uncertainty
4. Inducing trance using anchors
5. Navigating through confusion
6. Inducing trance in conversation (conversational trance)
Chapter 35. Uses of trance
A detailed example of working with suggestions
An example of working with the unconscious
Generalization
Chapter 36. Metaphors
Metaphors in life
The mechanism of metaphor
Constructing a simple metaphor
Construction of a complex metaphor
Inducing trance through storytelling metaphors
How to tell metaphors
Chapter 37. Examples of working metaphors
Example 1: A Therapeutic Metaphor That Works
Example 2: Great something. Zen wisdom for bedtime reading (metaphor for inducing trance)
Example 3: A fairy tale about a watch (blank)
Example 4: Metaphors for arousing sexual desire (blanks)
Example 5: Metaphor for a calm attitude towards a large number of your girls (blank)
conclusions
Chapter 38. Encapsulation (Cocoon) Techniques
Creation of Cocoon
Safety precautions
Chapter 39. The secret of mastery
The first aspect of mastery
Second moment of mastery
Third moment of mastery
The fourth moment of mastery
Becoming apprentices - moment 1
Becoming apprentices - moment 2
Becoming apprentices - moment 3
Becoming apprentices – moment 4
Conclusion
Part 7. Filters of Perception
Chapter 40. Perception and transmission of information. Natural information processing mechanisms
Chapter 41. Sensory perception
How to use it
How to catch modality by the tail
Sensory colored words
How to see modality without words
How to look at fingerings
Conclusion
Chapter 42. Submodality filter
Definition of present state
Defining the Desired State
Mapping submodalities
Changing submodalities
Using the result
Chapter 43. Emotional filter for information perception
Chapter 44. Logic Filter
Chapter 45. Perceptual Position Filter
First position
Second position
Third position
Integration: Three-position description
And how to use it in life
Chapter 46. Learning Filter
Chapter 47. Logic Level Filters
Environment Level
Behavior Level
Ability Level
Belief Level
Value Level
Identification Level
Mission Level
Laws of logical levels
Changing Beliefs
conclusions
Chapter 48. Sorting Gate
Sorting Gate: People
Sorting gate: places
Sorting Gate: Actions
Sorting gates: information
Sorting Gate: Items
Usage
Chapter 49. Reframing, or playing with the frames of perception
Reframing “And, but, even if”
Context reframing
Words and meaning
Chapter 50. Cases of incorrectly configured filters
Rake number one: Modeling a false attitude towards a girl
Rake number two: Drawing conclusions before receiving all the information
Rake number three: You transfer the behavior patterns of one person to another
Rake number four: Generalizations
Rake number five: You create false goals for yourself by deceiving yourself about your real desires.
Rake number six, the main one: Own responsibility
Chapter 51. Calibration
Calibrating your overall mood
Body Calibration
Calibration of facial expressions
Breath calibration
Speech calibration
Modality Calibration
Exercises to Improve Calibration Skills
And why the hell am I bashing myself here?
Conclusion
Conclusion of the conclusion, intended rather for NLP masters
Part 8. The Effective Seducer's Cookbook
1. Preparation
1. 1 I think I look bad
1. 2 How important is appearance when meeting a woman?
1. 2.1 What kind of guy's hair do girls prefer?
1. 2.2 What height do girls prefer guys?
1. 2.3 What type of guy do girls prefer?
2. Getting to know each other
2. 1 I don't have the confidence to approach a girl
2. 2 I don’t know how to induce the necessary state in myself
2. 3 How to start a conversation if a girl has a bitch – shield (bitch protection)?
2. 4 What to do if she says “Fuck you?”
2. 5 How can I turn off internal dialogue?
2. 6 (at the bar) She asks to buy a drink
2. 7 She comes up to me on the street and asks me for a smoke
2. 8 Give me more options for neghits, more, more!
2. 9 What to answer if she says “I don’t meet people on the street”?
2. 10 How can I understand that she is interested in me?
2. 11 How to meet ninja girls? (saleswomen, hairdressers, athletes...)
3. Conversation
3. 1 She asks if I have a girlfriend
3. 2 She asks how many women you've had
3. 3 She asks about your age
3. 4 Question “What are you thinking about now?”
3. 5 She says "I have a boyfriend"
3. 6 She asks where I work
3. 7 Adequacy question (Are you the smartest? Do you know what you’re doing?)
3. 8 Question about marital status now / in the future
3. 9 Question about the presence/number of children in different forms
3. 10 Question like “Who do you live with”
3. 11 How can I get a silent girl to talk?
3. 12 “When was the last time you slept with a girl?”
3. 13 Tell me topics for conversation with a girl?
3. 14 Question “How much do you earn?”
3. 15 How to quickly pick up the phone while meeting?
3. 16 How can I check if the phone number I provided is correct?
3. 17 She doesn’t give out her phone number and offers to write down my number
3. 18 How is sending to hell different from the checks that are described here?
3. 19 What questions should you not ask girls?
4. Date
4. 1 why was the woman very friendly towards me on the 1st (2nd, 3rd, other) date, and then refuses to meet?
4. 2 Where is the best place to date girls?
4. 3 She says she might be 15 (20, 30, 999) minutes late
4. 4 How to make a date over the phone?
4. 5 She didn’t come to the date, I waited for her for an hour. What to do next?
4. 6 She came on a date with a friend
4. 7 How to kiss her at the end of a date?
4. 8 How to understand that you can kiss a girl?
4. 9 She always says she's busy and will call back later
5. Seduction
5. 1 How to invite her to your home?
5. 2 She very stubbornly refuses to undress (breaks down)
5. 3 How to determine that a girl can already be fucked, ignoring her words?
5. 4 There is something, there is someone with, but nowhere (the problem of a place for sex)
5. 5 “You only need one thing from me” and options
5. 6 How to deflower a girl?
5. 7 She says "Let's remain friends"
5. 8 She says that she can sleep with guys only 1,2, n+1 months after meeting
5. 9 Do you need to ask a girl for permission to do your actions (kiss, for example)?
5. 10 How to seduce your old (or not so old) friend?
5. 11 She says "I must be faithful to him"
5. 12 She says “You will sleep with me and then leave me”
5. 13 She says “You can’t do it before the wedding”
5. 14. She says, “You can’t go on the first date.”
6. Maintaining relationships
6. 1 When should she confess her love?
6. 2 She asks “Do you love me?” and options
6. 3 If she says you're just having an affair...
6. 4 She asks “Why do you need me” / Why do you need me and options
7. Breakup
7. 1 How to end your relationship with a girl?
7. 2. How can I forget her?
8. Initially delusional hallucinations
8. 1. How can I increase (raise) my rank?
8. 2 She asks “Why did you like me?”
8. 3 What does it mean when a girl rubs the green ring on her left ring toe?
8. 4. How can I get her back?
9. Various non-specific cases
9. 1 Are there seasonal differences in dating?
9. 2 How to communicate with married women?
9. 3 Friends ask “did you fuck her?”
9. 4 I love her! What to do?
9. 5 Are there perfect girls?
9 .5 Is friendship possible between a boy and a girl?
9. 6 Give me a universal ICQ dialogue to attract a girl
Part 9. Which sums up the book
Appendix 1. How to become a successful seducer / pick-up artist (insert to taste)
HOW TO BECOME A SUCCESSFUL PICKUP PERSON
APPEARANCE
BEHAVIOR AND EXTERNAL MANIFESTATIONS OF THE ENTITY
MOOD
ACQUAINTANCE
FIRST DATE
SECOND DATE
CONCLUSION
Appendix 2. Reports
Field report number 1. Author – Mankubus
Field report number 2. Author Special
Field Report Number 3 by Lesley82
Field report number 4. Author – SB
Field report number 5. Author – Sumarr
Field report number 6. Author – Mankubus
Field report number 7. Author – SB
Field report number 8. Author – NNOP
Field Report Number 9 by Lesley82
Conclusion
Glossary of terms used in the book
Contact Information

Dedicated to my mother and Galina Yakovenko.

To two women who changed my worldview.

Preface

I would like to say a special thank you to my partner in all coaching projects, Mikhail Shirin, thanks to whom the current seminar is exactly what it is.

I would like to thank my teachers with whom I had the honor to study:

Galina Yakovenko, Mikhail Ginzburg, Betty Erickson, Frank Farrelly, Frank Pucelik, Sergei Gorin, Andrei Koenig, Tatyana Muzhitskaya, Alexei Kucherov, Robert Dilts, Jean Gaudin.

Special thanks to those people who helped me shape my thinking:

Thanks to these teams for the sounds that helped me work on this book for seven years:

Many thanks to those guys with whom I took a coaching course in the summer of 2003:

An introduction that explains what you're holding in your hands.

We lived and live in different cities and different countries, but we were able to meet periodically and exchange experiences. Bit by bit, a model of what RMES is now was born. And these are the people who stood at the very beginning, generating ideas and transferring their experience to my treasury of knowledge:

Andrey Alikberov (Moscow), Andrey Afanasyev (Chelyabinsk), Anton Matorin (Ryazan), Bulat Ziganshin (Naberezhnye Chelny), Semyon Paramonov (Moscow), Evgeny Stolyarov (Moscow), Konstantin Zverev (Munich), Alexey Stepanov (Tomsk), Roman Kuznetsov (Moscow), Arseny Metelin (Moscow), Lev Dolgachev (Tallinn), Mikhail Kuznetsov (Moscow), Mikhail Cheremisinov (Moscow), Alexander Gordeev (Moscow), Alexey Titov (St. Petersburg), Alexey Khizhnyak (Minsk), Kirill Batalov ( Moscow), De Cavallo Daniel (Moscow), Konstantin Viktorov (Moscow), Valery Yamshanov (Chelyabinsk), Boris Kharitonov (Novosibirsk).

Perhaps I might have missed or forgotten someone. It is possible that this did not happen out of malicious intent, but now that the gingerbread cookies have been distributed, let’s move on to the most important question:

what is the Russian Model of Effective Seduction

The answer to this question is best given point by point. Let's start with the first one.

Russian. The main idea of creating RMES is that we created it for Russian girls and Russian boys. In the conditions of our time and our Russian mentality, in the conditions of speaking Russian and communicating with Russian people. One could take the works of Jeffries or DiAngelo (both from the States) as a basis, but the methods that these respected people preach still do not work without adaptation. And after adaptation they become very similar to what we ourselves have reached.

Model. The idea behind the model is that we don't come up with numerous theories and test them on rats (as clinical psychologists often do), but take a person who does something and start thinking about why he can do it. Roughly speaking, we take a skill and begin to disassemble it into small cogs, adding new details and observing the result. And one person may have about five such skills in communicating with a girl. And the other person doesn’t have these skills, but women give him them anyway. Why? How? And it turns out that you can come to bed in different ways. And this is where the fun begins. Which skills are more useful? Which is bigger – a kilogram or a light? Moreover, not every woman has the perception of the skill that exists. And what happens in the end? A large, awesome chest of screwdrivers, but only one suits each specific woman. Therefore, the main idea of the model is that you and only you will decide which of the ideas and tricks described in this book will work for you. Try it: if you like it, take it for yourself. If you don’t like it, you’ll leave it in the book. You yourself can build any house from the car of bricks that are here.

Effective. Well, of course. You can beg one woman for five years to become your wife, or you can beg one woman for five years to stop introducing you to new friends, because your schedule is packed a couple of months ahead. Efficiency is achieving results at lower costs than before. And what the result will be is up to you to decide. Whether you want to find a wife, or seduce a specific woman, or get laid twenty years in advance, it’s up to you. Here I explain and teach techniques that will help you seduce any, I repeat, any woman with equal ease. The only question is spending your energy, time and money on it.

Seductions. Yes exactly. By and large, what does a man want from a woman? Of course, but washing and cleaning after seduction, and if before, then this is called a “coming housewife”. There are many people who offer to teach you anything because it helps in seducing women too. “Sex magic” alone is worth some good-natured banter, but what about more primitive things? About those guys who consider themselves “pick-up artists,” that is, they know how to meet girls. They do it cool, fun, great. And very rarely they call on the phone number she gave him. We know that acquaintance is a small, short step on the path to seduction, and not the end in itself of communication. We place emphasis in the direction we need, and we teach how to achieve goals. Seduce women.

Conclusions: This book is controversial. There is no instruction here “take a step, turn your left breast counterclockwise until it clicks, then...”. Seduction cannot be described in the language of consistency and cause and effect. Seduction can be described by the word “creativity” and that’s the only way.

How to read this book

Theory and practice are closely intertwined in this book. On the other hand, this is not a textbook on higher mathematics, which is studied chapter by chapter, strictly sequentially. Here, almost every chapter is a complete study and describes the application of one skill or talks about a specific idea. Therefore, you can start reading the book from any place, but it is better to start with the table of contents so that you know where and what is located.

There are several large parts to the book. The first part is purely theoretical, it tells what and how to do, and what, why and how happens. The first part gives basic ideas that will be useful for you to read and confirm with your own experience.

The second, third, fourth, fifth parts are a step-by-step presentation of the structure of seduction with tools that can be used specifically at this stage of seduction.

There is also a part called the “100 point theory”, which describes in great detail exactly the creation of male sexual attractiveness.

And also the “cookbook” part. This part simply contains answers to the “why and how” questions. Answer and question, theory in other places.

And there are a couple of apps. Or maybe there are a couple of parts that have already been forgotten, or are not specifically named to make it more interesting for you to read.

Yes, by the way, it’s a big request. Draw conclusions from a book only after you have read it read it in full. Otherwise, it will turn out like in the old days “we didn’t read the writer’s work, but we deeply condemn it.”

P.S. If you come across an unfamiliar term, then everything is fine. There are many of them here. See the “dictionary of terms” or look for this term in the table of contents. Everything is there.

Part 1
The basis of the fundamentals, or basic concepts of RMES

This part examines both the general laws of communication between men and women, as well as the simple skills that are necessary for this very communication within the framework of effectiveness. You can safely skip this chapter and read it last when you want to find answers to your “why” questions. On the other hand, starting reading the book from this chapter, you will receive answers to many questions that you have not even asked yourself. This part has what is called the "base". The basis of our communication, the basis of our effectiveness, the basis of the Russian model of effective seduction.

Chapter 1. Communication structure

...during a battle, the commander automatically switches to the mat, and the information content of the speech increases threefold...

from a lecture on ergonomics.

Somehow we men lust after women. That's how it happened. And at the same time we try to be as efficient as possible. And there are still people who think in this direction. For example me. Today I will be boring, talk about all sorts of clever nonsense and draw graphs. I will talk about the structure of relationships. I will talk about strategies for establishing a relationship with a woman. And at the same time, I will sincerely believe that I am right. Try to figure out the rest yourself.

Part I – Communication.

Who invented the Rubik's Cube?

A question from a collection of riddles for blondes.

Any communication we have with a woman falls under the definition of communication. This is how it seems to me. There is a concept of communication structure, or a certain sequence of actions according to which communication occurs. There are only 5 steps, they are simple and clear. Here they are:

1. Establishing contact

2. Getting to know each other

3. Communication

4. Breakup

5. Experiencing impressions from communication.

These steps follow one after another, and they are there. Let's take this structure as a basis and move it to a more general level. Let's consider this structure as communication with a woman. There's something to it, right? Especially if you replace the word in the third paragraph with “sex”. Let's look further. Namely, the standard and socially established scheme for communicating with a woman with the help of many external factors of influence.

Now you can think about how to apply this communication scheme and why it is needed. Like any other law of human communication, it has consequences and application at a higher or simpler level of communication. As an example, this diagram is suitable both for the process of meeting a woman in general, and for describing the entire process of the relationship between a man and a woman. Now let's move on to a detailed description of the steps of the communication structure. Using the example of meeting a woman.

Contact

She made a good impression. Smart, educated, has a sense of humor.

And then we decided to meet. It would be better if she stayed on her Internet.

From life stories

Establishing contact is an important part of communication. Moreover, how this contact will be established is not important in this case. I would imagine that the standard approach to establishing contact would be visual. Or, in other words, we establish contact with our gaze. It is very desirable that the contact be mutual, so that you are seen the same way you see her. Otherwise, your acquaintance will begin with fear when you touch a girl’s butt on the street. Moreover, rare exceptions only confirm the rule.

For example, in the case of meeting a girl on the street, the contact phase begins with the fact that you singled out this particular girl from a wild bunch of other people, you turned your attention to her. That's it, contact has been established. What will happen next?

Acquaintance

At the dating stage, we receive the first feedback from a person. The man shows us that she noticed us, he also singled us out from the crowd, he let us know that there was contact on his part Same installed. If you previously thought that getting to know each other meant saying your name and picking up the phone, then this is the topic of the next paragraph.

Communication

At this stage of communication, information is collected and this information is exchanged between communication participants. It is important to note that information is transmitted not only through words (verbally), but also through the body, facial expressions, gestures and other non-verbal factors. And that the nonverbal flow of information is much greater than the verbal one. It is recommended to think about this.

Parting

We cannot communicate with another person forever. This is how we are built. And we will part. When to do this? The most accurate strategy in this case is that separation follows immediately after the purpose of communication for which this communication was fulfilled. If you communicated with a girl in order to get her phone number, then it is very advisable to break up immediately after completing this action. Was there no purpose for communication? What the hell were you talking about?

Aftertaste

The same train of emotions that remains with us after we have finished communicating with a person. The impression this man made on us. Those thoughts that encourage us to make a couple of more communication loops with this person. Our experience, our emotions. That period of time when it is acceptable to think about communication.

And after I have, for some unknown reason, described the structure of spherical communication in a vacuum, we will move on to how to make this communication much more effective.

Part 2 – effectiveness of the communication structure.

What is efficiency anyway? For me, it’s spending fewer resources to achieve more results per unit of time. The less resources we spend to achieve results per unit of time, the higher the efficiency. Mathematically, this can be written as E=C/T*R, where E is efficiency, C is Goal (result), T is time spent achieving the goal, R is the required resources to achieve the goal. In this case, the goal is determined in advance, and it is easy to understand that the more time we spend on achieving the result, the less efficiency decreases. The situation is similar with resources. In this case, we can say that resources are our emotions or material values that we spend to achieve a goal.

Making contact

In the family of a knight, the visor is not clicked.

Medieval proverb.

The effectiveness of communication can be increased at each individual step of this structure. Even at the stage of establishing contact. First, a little theory - we have three main senses, which NLPers call VAC, or Vision, Voice, Sensation (Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic parts of experience). Each perception system has its own characteristics in terms of the speed and volume of transmitted information and even the range of information transmission. It is very easy to check this if you try to establish kinesthetic contact - it is limited by the length of our arms. If we summarize the features of each perception system, we get the following picture:

Vision – perception of a large number of pieces of information, maximum range, maximum transmission speed.

Sensations – perception of one unit of information at a time, the slowest speed, the smallest radius.

The greatest effectiveness of this stage of communication is achieved when all perception systems are involved. This is why I insist on the importance of kinesthetic contact in the first moments of acquaintance. Although, here it is already difficult to establish auditory and kinesthetic contact, it will rather complement the experience of communication with sensations. More about this below in the text.

As I wrote above, maximum efficiency is achieved, among other things, with minimal time investment. In support of this point, there is the following observation, which has been generalized from group studies. In total, I have data from 24 groups, totaling more than 800 people. In each group, in each pair of people, there was an effect of a rise in the emotional state immediately after establishing contact and, after some time, in the absence of activity on the part of the second participant in the communication, a decline in the emotional level with uncomfortable sensations from the beginning of communication. The critical threshold for the transition of comfort to discomfort looks like this:

Thus, we receive a gift that must be used very, very quickly. If we wait more than 3 seconds, then we will need to expend more resources or spend more time, which will ultimately affect the efficiency of the entire communication. Here we are faced with the traditional mistake of a young seducer, who at this stage starts his internal dialogue, missing everything that is given to him. How to improve efficiency in this case? One method is known to me with absolute accuracy. This is work and experience. And remember the epigraph to this part.

Acquaintance

-Girl, what is the melting point of asphalt?

-87 degrees Celsius

from the classics

In fact, dating begins from the very moment you open your mouth. How you build your acquaintance is not important to me. All I can tell you is that the concept of effectiveness exists at this stage of communication. The main purpose of dating is to attract attention to yourself, create a positive impression of your presence and create a reserve of positivity for further communication. And the worst thing is that you have exactly 12 seconds to do everything. You have just that much time to transform the dating process into a communication process. That’s why I leave it to the pioneers to come up with super-templates for dating with 35 words and 18 actions. We have 12 seconds of efficiency that must be used at 100. It is clear that starting an internal dialogue is strictly prohibited here. What remains? There is just enough time left to say exactly what you think. The usual phrase that came to mind first. For example: “You're awesome. Let's go for a walk".

The effectiveness of this stage greatly increases your naturalness, which is also very desirable to develop in yourself. Evil NLPers call this naturalness the word “Congruence”.

Additionally, the effectiveness of this stage is increased by your appearance and the creation of rapport already at this stage. At a minimum, join according to body position, speed of movement and currently preferred modality.

Another important factor useful for the preliminary analysis of the “Contact-Acquaintance” step is that a woman makes a decision about the sexual attractiveness of a man in the same 15 seconds. The form of this decision is approximately this: “I could sleep with this man,” in exactly this version. If the form is “I want this handsome guy,” then what are you doing here?

Communication

-I told him: tell me.

-And what?

-Well, he told me the history of the Moscow metro.

-How is your virginity?

-I'm moving in this direction.

-We must not move, we must move

"Don't be a threat to South Central by drinking juice on your block."

So, you can say that you have already met. Now you have started communicating. As I understand it, your effectiveness involves setting a goal from dating directly BEFORE dating, right? Okay, I just asked, just in case. I assume that you want to get from the other person with whom you are currently communicating a very resourceful and positive aftertaste period, which you need to start shaping now. The peculiarity of this stage of communication is that there are no more gifts from our subconscious in the form of bonus resources. Further development of communication occurs from the starting state obtained during acquaintance. What will help us at this stage? The most important thing, of course, is to establish rapport. Moreover, the rapport is the maximum possible for this situation. A sufficient indicator of excellent rapport is adherence to a logical level of values. There are many techniques you can use to do this:

1. model of indefinite language according to Milton Erickson (probably, for skiers it can be very important sometimes to be in nature).

2. You can use the pattern of walking through logical levels “What does this mean for you?” (And when you are in a state of erotic arousal, what does that mean to you?).

3. Card Splitting Pattern “Definitely, Maybe” (Exactly, group sex can be very important for achieving nirvana).

After we have created the required deep rapport on several levels, including verbal and nonverbal, we can remember that it is important to sometimes establish kinesthetic contact during communication. At this stage he belongs. After all, what could be more natural than giving a woman your hand while walking? Although yes, different times, different morals. Well, bite her ear. I don't mind.

What is required of us next? Further, in a state of deep rapport, we bring the person into a state of resource. Here you will need the skills of conducting in a state of rapport. The resource state is generally useful in life, but in communication it plays, if not the most important, then a secondary role. Let's draw a graph.

Ideally, this graph should be symmetrical. And we must strive for this. I'll tell you more about this later.

Parting

From the point of view of efficiency, the time of farewell should coincide with the stage of acquaintance, and the optimal period is 10-15 seconds for a kiss on the cheek and taking a phone number. Of course, if you haven't taken the phone number before. Such a farewell triggers a much more active process of aftertaste than a simple “Bye... bye.... Bye... meow... bye....”.

Aftertaste

This is the time of experience, the time to process your kinesthetic experience. This is the time when you can finally start this internal dialogue with a bottle of beer to think about this very communication. This is the time to think about tactics for further actions and select a further scenario for the development of relations. Time for your imagination to fly. In general, I have no recommendations here. You'll figure it out yourself.

The final structure of effective communication

Diagram of an ideal communication structure (Spherical communication in a vacuum)

To maintain the effectiveness of the communication stage, resources are constantly introduced into the situation, trying to maintain maximum resource communication for both participants.

Changing states

When I hit the bottom, there was a knock from below

Another law of the human psyche that should be taken into account when analyzing the structure of communication is the law of the flow of emotional states. A person cannot always be either comfortable or uncomfortable. Comfort is always followed by discomfort, and discomfort is always followed by comfort. A person needs both positive and negative emotions. In graph form it might look like this (spherical flow of emotions in a vacuum):

Thus, changes in emotions occur constantly. Returning to the graph of the ideal structure of emotions, it is easy to understand that in order to keep an emotion in a constant plus, a constant contribution of resources is required, that is, you will need more and more strength and energy to make the girl constantly comfortable with you.

That is why you should not delay the communication stage - as soon as you understand that maintaining this level of efficiency will require you to overspend resources (more than you are willing to spend now), you should move on to the separation stage. You will get a good connection of the resource state to you. In other words, you showed up - she feels good. You left - she feels bad. This is a good plus for future relationships.

Consequences from the theory

Once again I will briefly and clearly express the main points of the long theory.

1. Touching a girl during a conversation is one of the main tools in seduction women.

2. If you see that “the party has already died down,” that is, the girl is no longer communicating with you as well as before, pick up the phone and leave, or take communication to another quality level. In another room, in another plane.

3. The more time you spend getting to know each other, the more effort it will take you to seduce a woman.

Philip Bogachev

Russian Model of Effective Seduction

Introduction

Dedicated to my mother and Galina Yakovenko.

To two women who changed my worldview.

Philip Bogachev

Russian Model of Effective Seduction

A self-instruction manual for preparing successful men.

Preface

I would like to say a special thank you to my partner in all coaching projects, Mikhail Shirin, thanks to whom the current seminar is exactly what it is.

I would like to thank my teachers with whom I had the honor to study:

Galina Yakovenko, Mikhail Ginzburg, Betty Erickson, Frank Farrelly, Frank Pucelik, Sergei Gorin, Andrei Koenig, Tatyana Muzhitskaya, Alexei Kucherov, Robert Dilts, Jean Gaudin.

Special thanks to those people who helped me shape my thinking:

Thanks to these teams for the sounds that helped me work on this book for seven years:

Lake Of Tears, My Dying Bride, Karunesh, Moonspell, Hallucinogen, Juno Reactor, Queen, Pink Floyd, Sergey Kalugin, Zero, Jethro Tull, Slayer, Pan.Thy.Monium, Summoning, Iron Maiden, Metallica, Dead Can Dance, Space , Chemical Brothers, Roy Orbison, Elvis Presley, Dagda, Blasphemy, Marduk, Empyrium, Brighter Death Now, Absu, 3rd Force, Angizia, Dismal Euphony, Scorpions, Antichrisis, Inkubus Sukkubus, Sirrah, Master's Hammer, Tiamat, Cemetery Of Scream, Catharsis.

Many thanks to those guys with whom I took a coaching course in the summer of 2003:

An introduction that explains what you're holding in your hands.

At the end of 1998, I created the first prototype of the website www.lover.ru, and already in 1999 it was known throughout Russia. Interesting people began to gather at the project forum, we began to actively meet, and at the beginning of 2000 the idea was born to summarize everything that we know about meeting girls, and even about seducing them. It turned out that there are at least a couple of dozen methods and approaches, but none of them reflects a comprehensive model from start to finish. From dating to seduction, from seduction to creating relationships, from creating relationships to separation.

What is the Russian Model of Effective Seduction

The answer to this question is best given point by point. Let's start with the first one.

Model. The idea behind the model is that we don't come up with numerous theories and test them on rats (as clinical psychologists often do), but take a person who does something and start thinking about why he can do it. Roughly speaking, we take a skill and begin to disassemble it into small cogs, adding new details and observing the result. And one person can have about five such skills in communicating with a girl. And the other person doesn’t have these skills, but women give him them anyway. Why? How? And it turns out that you can come to bed in different ways. And this is where the fun begins. Which skills are more useful? Which is bigger – a kilogram or a light? Moreover, not every woman has the perception of the skill that exists. And what happens in the end? A large, awesome chest of screwdrivers, but only one suits each specific woman. Therefore, the main idea of the model is that you and only you will decide which of the ideas and tricks described in this book will work for you. Try it: if you like it, take it for yourself. If you don’t like it, you’ll leave it in the book. You yourself can build any house from the car of bricks that are here.

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Preface

An introduction that explains what you're holding in your hands.

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